It has been some time since I have read a book on dating and relationships, probably because it has been some time since the subject has seemed urgent to me.
But recently a local pastor told me that as he pastors young adults toward marriage, he has been helped by Sex, Dating, and Relationships by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas. I decided to check it out and I am glad I did so.
You are not boyfriend and girlfriend, but friends, and you spend time together i. Think of a dating friendship as a precursor to a marriage proposal but without all the romantic, sexual overtones that so often accompany a dating relationship.
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Thus, the main goal of a dating friendship is to explore the viability of marriage while preserving the guidelines of sexual and romantic purity required by the neighbor relationship. Integral to the argument is an understanding of how the Bible guides and restricts sexual activity.
God gives us clear sexual boundaries to guide marriage relationships sex is requiredneighbor relationships sex is forbidden and family relationships sex is forbidden.
The authors want dating couples to understand that until they are married, their relationship to the person they are pursuing is a neighbor relationship in which any sexual activity or even the awakening of sexual desire is inappropriate. What is conspicuously absent from the Bible is a category that falls between neighbor and spouse. Yet this is where so much of our relationship confusion comes from—an invented category that is more than one but less than the other and lacking any clear biblical guidelines.
But this is not true. Not only is sex a divinely appointed image of the gospel, but also man himself is an image of God. We are walking sermon illustrations, if you will.
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At a time where there is so much confusion about sex, dating and relationships, this book provides helpful, timely counsel. It offers clarity to the nature of relationships and encouragement that purity is not out of reach. If you are single or care about someone who is, you really should read this book. The result may just be a simpler, more God-honoring approach to dating than you thought possible.
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Search for Search. Last night my wife and I sat and did a rough tally of the of couples we have known as they have gone through dating and engagement. Then we thought about how many of them maintained healthy and God-glorifying physical boundaries and how many had confessed that they had not. The s were suddenly not looking nearly so good.
This is one of those areas where contemporary Christians so often do very poorly and this is exactly why there have been so many recent books on dating, courtship, purity and all the rest. Christians are failing and desperately looking for a better way. Sponsor Show Your Support. You May Also Like. Kindle Deals for Christians.